We’ve all had those moments when grammar gets tangled, and we commit what I like to call a speech-o—like a typo but spoken. One of the most common mix-ups I hear is this: “Her and I went to the store.”

Not nearly as often, maybe once in a blue moon, I’ll hear something like this: “They invited she and me.”

Let’s untangle this with a simple rule of relationships: Some pronouns are meant to be together, while others just don’t mix.

The Perfect Grammar Couples

• “She” and “I” belong together when the pronouns are doing something.
  ✅ Example: “She and I went to the store.”
• “Her” and “me” go together when the pronouns are receiving the action.
  ✅ Example: “The teacher called her and me to the front.”

The Mismatched Pairs (Avoid These!)

• “Her” and “I” don’t match:
  ❌ “Her and I went shopping.”
  ✅ “She and I went shopping.”
• “She” and “me” clash terribly:
  ❌ “The teacher gave she and me extra work.”
  ✅ “The teacher gave me and her extra work.”

Quick Test: Try It Solo

Remove the other person and see what sounds right:

• You wouldn’t say “Her went shopping,” right?
• Or “The teacher gave she extra work.”

If it sounds wrong alone, it’s still wrong when paired.

The Takeaway

Use “she” and “I” when you’re taking action.
Use “her” and “me” when something’s happening to you.

Grammar, like relationships, doesn’t have to be complicated—just pair your pronoun (and yourself!) with the right partner.